Jessica, 24, reached out to me with a question that I thought was so important for other young girls to hear, I brought in Dr. Gilda Carle, a relationship columnist on Match.com and author of Don’t Bet on the Prince! How to Have the Man You Want by Betting on Yourself. Check out her site here.

Dr. Gilda Carle

Here goes:

Hi Christelyn,

I follow ur blog and completely agree with your stance. I am a 24 year old recent college grad and I am wondering if you believe women should be deliberate in regards to making marriage happen or passive. I’ve been dating a man from Sierra Leone for a little over a year. I have an intense desire to get married soon while he has 2 more years of college to finish up. As of today, our relationship is rocky…and because of that Im not sure if I’m willing to wait for a guy Im not 100% sure will put a ring on it in the first place.
Dr. Gilda QOTW by Christelyn
So ladies, what say you?