This note made me go “AWWWW!!!”
Dear Ms. Karazin, I am writing to you as a young “white” boy of 18 years (though I only acknowledge the existence of one race– the human race). I have been enjoying my first ever relationship, though it is sort of unofficial. My companion is a black girl of the same age who is also experiencing the joys of a romance for the first time. Anyways, I am curious to understand, in a nutshell, how her hair works. I know this is a complicated issue but if someone could explain it simply to me I would be very thankful. Furthermore, I have told this girl that I prefer her hair to be curly and wavy.

I don’t disparage her when she shows up with straight hair, however, I have told her my preference. I hope I wasn’t too rude or out of place. I think she is beautiful inside and out, regardless of her hair, but the curlier/ wavier hair just suits her better. Is there any way I can politely nudge her to make and keep her hair more wavy/curly? Of course, the way she dresses and chooses to present herself is up to her but I would love to see her looking her best. She has told me that all but one of the members in her family have encouraged her to regularly straighten her hair.