Everything your mother didn't have time to tell you because she was too busy struggling!
It’s not always easy to keep the lights on in this joint, but when I get notes like I received over the weekend, I know that no matter what, we here at BB&W have an important job to do. This isn’t just another frivolous blog full of celebrity gossip and ratchet videos. We are a COMMUNITY that inspires critical thought and positive change.
Take a read from a young lady in France…
i am a french black woman so my english will be quite messy i just wanted to thank you because since i have discovered your site my eyes got open;
I am 30 years Old and since 2007 in France many black men are berating black women, saying that we are ugly and we wear fake hair, and they pit us against the other colours of women, telling them that we black women are jealous and we want to brutalize them because we they are “stealing” them from us;
When i discovered your site in 2013 i stopped considering black men as the Prize;
Now to me ,the Prize is a good man who will love me, respest me and want to protect me;
and as i started to get thinner, and to stop using skin lightening products and weves and i went natural, doing a big chop , started using make up, white, asian and northern african men act like gentlemen to me, black men notice that and start to be jealous; i am showing your site to my friends and they love it;
I have become friendlier with white women to show them that we are not a bunch of masculine brutes;
i have noticed that even if you are talking about AA black women, you are not in the “if you are not american get out of here “mode so i thank you for that.
Merci madame et Gros bisous
I especially like this last line: “i have noticed that even if you are talking about AA black women, you are not in the “if you are not american get out of here “mode so i thank you for that.” It is my opinion that bloggers who are steadily drawing divisive lines between American black women versus non-American black women is misguided. Empowerment of black women is empowerment of black women, period.
And update from a reader that I did a video response…
It has almost been two years since I wrote to you as the “College Girl” who asks “Why Do I Always Have to Be the Wing Woman?” The advice that came pouring out, I took to heart and began changing my outlook on myself and on the world around me. I can now say, that I am no longer the Wing Woman, unless I choose to be.Since writing that letter, I have graduated from a great college, have experienced two successful/positive, short-term romantic relationships with non-black men (which ended due to my constant need to travel), have traveled to 11 countries and am currently living in my 12th for the next year….Vietnam! You’ve even inspired me to start making my own blog about be a young woman of color and traveling in South East Asia.I just wanted to thank you and your blog for giving that extra bit of confidence to a young black woman navigating the world: professionally, romantically, and personally.Sincerely,“D”Ps, I’ve included a couple photos so you know my face haha….from awkward duck to a young lady…or so I hope!
Not many people outside of people in the healing professions can claim their work literally changes peoples’ lives. And it’s not just MY work–it’s OUR work. It’s YOUR support, your comments, you telling your friends and so on and so on that the word is getting out. There literally is no other blog in existence like this on the web, and I’ll spend my last penny to keep the lights on.
“Author of Swirling. Advocate for black women finding love across color lines. Creator of The Pink Pill.”
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