Hello, Mrs. K, I’m Chris (please don’t say my name, say something like “random white guy” or whatever, instead, please? lol That’s if you decide to use my question/letter thing) and I find myself in a particularly strange and difficult situation, regarding interracial dating. I’ve been a fan of your series on youtube for a while now, and I’ve been interested in black women since I can remember.

Anyway, I’m a white guy living in Southwestern Illinois and I strongly prefer black women to any other. Nothing against white, asian, hispanic, etc.. I just prefer/want a black woman. I do like darker skinned black women better, but that’s not a necessity, and I really hope what I said doesn’t come across as rude or anything, it’s not supposed to be. Anyway, I also feel more drawn to older women because of their (usual anyway) higher levels of maturity, but anyway, my problem is that I’m a virgin at 26 (true story), and I’ve only had one girlfriend, and that was way back in 2008 for like 3 months, so.. I have absolutely no idea how to go about talking to a black woman, and I don’t want to accidentally offend culturally, set a bad first impression, come off as a creep, or anything. I’m trying to “fake it till I make it” but it’s not easy when you continually get turned down by potential partners.

I don’t know, I’m just tired of being without a partner. I’m not into the bar scene, etc.. I just want a woman to date, love, cherish, have fun with, and y’know, basically be happy with, maybe have kids together but nothing too crazy. It doesn’t help, though, that at least part of my family (and I hate saying this) is racist and seems to enjoy saying they “hate *censored*” and “*censored* lovers*” I don’t know, it’s really toxic and I don’t want anything to do with it. I can’t really have a girlfriend if she’s gotta be subjected to that kind of stuff just because she’s black. I just feel hopeless in this situation. On one hand, I don’t have any idea how to talk to a black woman (I know you guys’re just like anyone else but it’s the different background thing, as I’m sure you know all too well), and on the other hand, I don’t really want my potential girlfriend to hear certain family members calling her things just because of her skin color. I feel trapped, on all sides.

Advice would be greatly appreciated.

PS. Keep up the good work, I love the show.