Coaching: Help a Sister Be Catch the Menz With Fem...

Got this letter from a young girl recently… Dear Christelyn, I love your posts, have read your book and been keeping up with Beyond Black and W...
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When It’s In Your Face, Will You Heed the Wa...

Let me first start by saying that this post is not about black men. This is about black women, and how some of them cling to the need to have a black ...
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QOTW: White Guy Contemplating Leaving Marriage for...

I got this note earlier today… Hi Cristylen, I’m in a predicament and could use your advice. Im a 34 year old white male fairly fit. Im a ...
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Artichokes, Herb Mix, Peaches…Oh My! Early S...

Kale is such an elegant plant… I’m especially excited with my garden this year. My first experimental growing season really allowed me to ...
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QOTW: Asian Man Asks, “Why Wouldn’t a ...

I wonder if the organizers of those studies that put Asian men and black women as the most unattractive and undateable knew of the psychological damag...
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Purple Reign…Three Product Favs to Get This ...

I love purple…it’s my favorite color. Unfortunately, certain undertones in purple cosmetics don’t work for me. Sometimes they’...
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Letter Writer: “I didn’t even realize dati...

I love getting letters like this…makes it all worth it!   Good evening, Christelyn. My name is Dee and I found out about you from previousl...
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How’s Swirling in the South? BB&W Goes ...

We’ve discussed how interracial relationships, and peoples’ openness (or not) to it often depends on the region in which you live. So I fi...
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Video: How to Get Along with the White Women in Yo...

Now before you rev up your fingers for a rebuttal, understand that this video is based on my own individual experiences, but as the saying goes, yours...
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Always Alluring: The Hidden Sexual History of Blac...

Along the line of qui bono?, one might want to ask the question, who benefits from calling black women who date interracially “bed wenches?...
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Paleo-Friendly Rich, Thick Vegetable Soups to LOVE...

Right now in the garden I’m harvesting the celery and broccoli that has been growing so well through the fall, but is getting close to the end o...
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Who Benefits From Black Women Not Feeling Feminine...

I’m really glad more and more critically thinking black women are beginning to ask the right kind of questions....
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Jane Iredale Does Emollient Matte Red, NYX Does Gr...

Right about now I have a good collection of red lipsticks, and I love them all I can’t decide which one is the best. However, the folks at Jane ...
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Whaaat?! Shea Moisture Has a New Professional Line...

I went to Sally’s today to get some mini bun forms because I’m doing my quarterly hide-my-ends phase to keep my ‘fro Diana Ross insp...
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