black woman, fitness, gym, chastised for being too thin, inappropriate gear, stereotype, health, weight, planet fitness,
What the Cuss?
20 Mar 14

A True WTF Moment…When a Gym Manager Tells a Black Wom...

So it seems that black women are damned if we do, and damned if we don’t, doesn’t it? By now, many of you have read about a true bit of WTF-ery when recent reports about a Richmond, California black woman was asked to cover up at Planet Fitness because her “toned body” was “intimidating” to…

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dating, mating, relationships, trust, loyalty, submission, surrender, interracial, marriage, couples, intimacy, point of view, why can't some women be submissive, the power of submission,
*Special*
19 Mar 14

Surrender Versus Submission: What You Don’t Know Might...

All this talk of men, sex, and femininity, yet again, has got my mind sizzling with ways in which I might be able to explain to you what’s so aw...

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dating, relationships, mating, interracial relationship, meeting mates, app, digital dating, hook ups, Niki McElroy, Tinder, black women looking for non black men, how can I meet guys,
Relationships
19 Mar 14

Author of “Black Girls Guide to Dating White Men”...

My buddy and fellow IR author, Niki McElroy, author of  A Black Girls Guide to Dating White Men, recently took an 8-month ride on Tinder, the popula...

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naturalnista, vblogger, actress, friend to the room, entertainment, video, soap operas, natural hair, LaToya Codner, Days of Our Lives, NBC
Entertainment
18 Mar 14

Tune in Today to See Super-Cute Naturalista, LaToya Codner o...

If you’ve been on this blog any amount of time, you know I’m a stay-at-home mom. As such, it’s a requirement to watch soap operas. Y...

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NENE LEAKES. Dancing With the Stars, DWTS, television, entertainment, dancing, competition, black women, interracial couple, fashion, style, TONY DOVOLANI
Beauty
18 Mar 14

Big, Bold and Beautiful: I’m Loving NeNe Leakes on Sea...

I don’t know how you feel about NeNe Leakes, or if you even follow the reality show fodder enough to know who she is. But there is one thing tha...

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dating, teens, interracial dating, young people, proms, Ebony magazine, stigma, stereotype, society, relationships,
News
18 Mar 14

Guess Who’s Coming to the Prom? EBONY Magazine Release...

Thank lawdbejeezus that today’s teenagers don’t have as many hangup about interracial relationships that the older folks seem to have. Acc...

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veggies, garden, health, nutrition, DIY, tomatoes, greens, skin, hair, carrots, parsley, micro greens, thyme, basil, peppers, mint, strawberries, zucchini, radish, dwarf fruit trees,
Farmer's Market Fresh
18 Mar 14

No Excuses! Six Good-For-You Plants You Can Grow Without a Y...

At some point, it will cease to be winter in the Midwest and East Coast and continue to be the never-ending summer it has been in California. Usually ...

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Patrick Wanin, Ph.D, Matthew Hussey, black women, femininity, perception, gender roles, dating, dynamics, inter human relationships, interracial dating, womanhood, sexuality, stigma, masculinity, what is femininity, black women are feminine,
Black Women's Empowerment
17 Mar 14

Femininity Series, Part One: “What Does It Mean to Be ...

The topic of femininity is so polarizing. On one end, you have women who feel like even the discussion of femininity is a threat to feminism, and wome...

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17 Mar 14

Monday Punday # 28...

Monday-Punday #28   SirLoin, an amateur maritime historian, offers the following tidbit concerning the offshore sailing log of the USS Constituti...

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WSHH, trash video, exploitation, violence, black girls, black fathers, crazy video, fathering, blackistan, poor parenting, child protective services, teen daughters, urban, ghetto, black on black crime, good dads, beat your kids, it takes a man, dysfunctional, child abuse, PTSD, emotional damage,
Family
16 Mar 14

DISGUSTING! Father Beats 13 Year-Old Girl, Mother Watches, R...

What I find most disgusting about this video is how the mother is so gleeful in her blood lust, egging this man (is he her father?) to beat her, calli...

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dating, spit ups, rumors, divorce, bad patterns, therapy, couples, Halle Berry, actress, Oliver Martinez, marriage, split, Hollywood,
Relationships
16 Mar 14

Halle Berry Rumored Split Leads Me to Ask, “At What Po...

Apologies in advance to #TeamHalle stans, but I’m scratching my head about the news that Halle Berry might be splitting from yet another partner...

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fashion, style, monokini, inspiration, summer, wardrobe, swimming suit, dress for your body shape,
Fashion
16 Mar 14

Iffy Belly? No Waist to Speak Of? Consider the Monokini...

I am one of those unfortunate women who does not have an hourglass shape. Yes; I’m slim and fit, but no amount of exercise and diet will change ...

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black women, radio, Tom Joyner, morning, show, Christelyn Karazin, damaging stereotype, perception, media, movies, producer, Tyler Perry, interview, option, self esteem, tropes,
Interviews
14 Mar 14

I Told Tyler Perry I Want to See More HEALTHY Swirl Relation...

I had the opportunity of a lifetime today to speak my piece to Tyler Perry and get the peanut gallery to admit that colorism plays a MAJOR role in the...

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Beauty
14 Mar 14

Curvy Fashionista Talks Her Favorite Spring Looks...

Love this girl. Totally adorable. If you haven’t heard of the Curvy Fashionista, you’re way past due. Curvy Fashionista is seeing: White, ...

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International Traveling
14 Mar 14

Five Totally Unusual Ways to Travel Alone and Still Have a G...

I know who you are…I see the stats. You’re single, young, educated, and have some money. So why haven’t you traveled abroad to disco...

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*Special*
13 Mar 14

Is Jack Reynor Hollywood’s Latest Irish Fetish? [New O...

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Beauty
12 Mar 14

Since You Asked…The Lipstick I Was Sporting When I Hel...

LOL not really. I just love writing salacious headlines. Marc seems like a nice guy, just…perpetually “confused.” On purpose. Anyhoo...

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Black Women's Improvement Project (BWIP)
12 Mar 14

Tired of Feeling Like the Dude? BB&W Fan and Friend, &#...

Let’s face it: gender neutrality is confusing. So let’s just celebrate being girls, shall we? Long-time BB&W fan, ‘Nicole Abunda...

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interracial dating, black women dating white men, Swirling, book, video, diverse dating, dating outside your race, white men, advice, question of the week, culture, society, racism, intercultural communication, biracial, blended families, dark skinned women, community, international, quality men, black women dating white men, relationship, marriage, couples, swirling, blended families, culture, society, racism, fear,
News
12 Mar 14

Thank God Your Statuses Are Worth a Dang! New Study Says Emo...

Better think real hard about what you write on your next Facebook status update. Your selfie could be the butterfly wing that starts the tsunami. Evid...

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lupita nyong'o, interview, black women, culture, media, Dr. Yaba Blay, Huffington Post Live, Marc Lamont Hill, debate, dialogue, Christelyn, WAOD, Gina, bloggers, politics, social science, racism, feminism, Kenyan, actress, controversial, video Karazin, Swirlrperception, fetishism,
News
12 Mar 14

In Case You Missed It: Me, Gina from WAOD, and Dr. Yaba Blay...

Let’s discuss!...

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good guys, bad men, dating, relationships, advice, meeting men, guys you should avoid, stay away from this guy, corny guy, whiny guy, passive aggressive, introvert, resentful, TRJ, tracy renee jones, manhandling, expectations, swirlr, mixed race, IR dating, interracial dating,
Gender Conflict
11 Mar 14

How Self Described “Good Guys” Usually Aren̵...

I’m the type of female that listens with her Spidey sense when it comes to men attempting to state their case on why I should consider them a fo...

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street harassment, verbal abuse, black men, black women, sexism, culture, society, misogyny, urban space, protection, speaking out, violence, domestic violence,
Guests of the Inner Sanctum
11 Mar 14

“My Name is NOT Baby,” a Rant About Street Haras...

  One day, I was standing outside of a store waiting for my dad to meet me. While I was waiting, I made a phone call to my mom. While I was on the ph...

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love, acceptance, community, family, support, Halfbreed Clothing, model, clothing, style, fashion, grunge, inspiration,
*Special*
10 Mar 14

It’s Not Always Easy To Love Me. But I Thank You For I...

I recently got an email from a supporter of mine who was worried about all the rumors going around about me–you know, the ones that say I’...

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Lupita Nyong’o, Halle Berry, Kenyen, African, X men, character, movies, Angela Bassett, actress, Storm, comics,
Pop Culture
10 Mar 14

Move Over, Halle–Lupita Up for the Role of X-Men’...

I spend a large amount of time on social media.  I would dare to say at times its an unhealthy amount, since I can easily spend hours and hours enjoy...

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*uncategorized*
10 Mar 14

Monday Punday # 27...

Monday-Punday #27   SirLoin notes that one of the delights of teaching History is the occasional jewel of a student blooper in a essay, derived f...

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cooking, recipes, dining, entertainment, domestic, kitchen, DIY, food, Chef Bob, beans, protein, foodie, cooking, boston baked beans, chef,
BB&W Recipe Exchange
10 Mar 14

Chef Bob’s Boston Baked Beans...

Boston Baked Beans When it comes to summer picnics, I look forward to a handful of things: blackened hot dogs on the grill, sweet corn on the cob, wat...

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Youtube, Swirlr, dating, relationships, mating, biracial marriage, blended families, show, reality show, advice, black women, The Daily Mail, online publication, online news, England, Swirlr, media, reality show, UK, press, IR dating, Swirling, Jordan Harbinger, CNN, mixed marriage, interracial dating, black women, video, Youtube, series, relationships, mating, black women, non black men, white men, asian men, dating outside of your race
News
10 Mar 14

London Calling…”Swirlr” Covered in “...

Okay now I’m feeling legit. Daily Mail is bomb.com. Guess those folks in the UK watch CNN too, because it’s pretty much a transcript of wh...

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dating, relationship challenges, IR dating, black women dating white men, hostility, mixed marriage, blended families, culture, society, advice, support network,
Relationships
09 Mar 14

Fear of Social Consequences Squelches Relationship Before It...

I just saw this response from a guy who commented on this post, and I thought it warranted a separate discussion: Sounds like this guy has some pretty...

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black women, fetish, skin, lupita nyong'o, racism, culture, society, stereotypes, Twitter, Dr. Lamont Hill, Melissa Hines Perry, dencia, whitenitious, skin cream, complexion, beauty standards, black skin, industry, shame, African, conversation about black women, value of dark skin, intellectuals, false concern, concern trolling, Black Woman Fetish Hysteria, BWFH, mujeres negras, fetiche, la piel, Nyong'o lupita, el racismo, la cultura, la sociedad, los estereotipos, Twitter, Dr. Lamont Hill, Melissa Hines Perry, dencia, whitenitious, crema para la piel, cutis, los estándares de belleza, piel negro, la industria, la vergüenza, Africana, conversación sobre las mujeres negras, valor de la piel oscura, intelectuales, falsa preocupación, preocupación curricán, negro Mujer Fetish Histeria, BWFH,
What the Cuss?
09 Mar 14

Can We Please Stop with the Black Woman Fetish Hysteria?...

I’ve watched with delight over the passed week since covering the Oscars and relishing in Lupita’s victory and observed all the speculatio...

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Swirlr, dating, reality show, CNN, Youtube, interview, mixed dating, interracial relationships, blended families, advice,
Interviews
09 Mar 14

Check Out My “Swirlr” Interview on CNN/HLN…...

I was sick as a dog doing this show, but I managed to keep it together long enough to not look like I was ready to throw up on my shoes. I love the fo...

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