In truth, the guy wrote me, terrified that this black girl he liked would crush his manhood, is slightly above average.

To be so terrified of dating a black woman because of a myth is so sad.

In the Journal of Urology study, researchers found the following among the group of 80 men:

• An average penis size of 8.8 cm (3.5 inches) when flaccid
• An average penis size of 12.9 cm (5.1 inches) when erect. [SOURCE]

Here’s an excerpt from the “Get the (black) Girl” dating series I created last month for non-black men who are interested in dating black women but, for a variety of reasons, lack the confidence or experience to approach.

Even if you won’t admit it to me, the thought about black women needing and wanting a man with an elephant-sized dick is a minimum qualifier for…uh…entry probably has crossed your mind and been a mild concern. Between you, me and the fencepost, it’s all bullshit. Black men just like to keep the stereotype alive because it benefits them in the sexual marketplace.

The truth is, most women prefer men with average-size penises–black women included. There IS such a thing at TOO BIG. Gigantic penises are uncomfortable and cause us major female issues we won’t discuss here.

And men with huge dicks aren’t exactly happy, either. Just ask Jonah Falcon, with the 13.5 inch penis, or Roberto Esquivel Cabrera, who comes in at a whopping 19 inches. Guess what? The size causes major problems, and poor Roberto can’t even get laid. They get constant infections. They can’t put it in all the way for fear of splitting girls in two. But you know what they both have in common? They’re both NOT black! The myth that black men have larger penises than everyone else is just that–a myth that they have absolutely no qualms about letting it perpetuate, because why not? It works for them.

In general, the only men who have to maybe work a little (ha ha) harder at pleasing a woman of any race is someone who falls below the average. And even then, there are angles and techniques to bring both of you pleasure, so stop stressing!

The key with sex is to figure out what your partner responds to and perfect it. Focus on making love to a black woman like it’s the last time you’ll ever see her, and you’ll have her exactly where you want her. When I was single, the general assumption was that black men didn’t perform oral sex, and non-black men were the pros. Make no mistake–when imagining what it’s like to have sex with you, that will no doubt but running through her mind. Don’t disappoint her.

But that just one, tiny (haha) part. There’s a whole course. You can check it out here.