Relationships

30 Jul 14

Writer Reads “Swirling,” and Is Overwh...

You won’t want to miss this. One of the most touching letters I’ve ever received. Ladies, don’t let anyone tell you that non-black m...
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sex, intimacy, dating, mating, relationships, online dating, healthy communication, red flags, rules of dating, advice,
27 Jul 14

Intimacy Is Not Built Through Sex. Surprised?

  A couple of months ago, I downloaded Tinder after hearing good things about it. And in one month’s time, I had four dates with three guys, pr...
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QOTW, advice, white friends, black friends, bias, race, culture, education, teaching moments,
27 Jul 14

QOTW: “Help! My White Friends Ask My Black G...

How many us have felt like you’ve had to be the ambassador of all black people when you’re around people of other races? On guy wrote me,...
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ethnic men, families, influence, blended families, mixed marriage, biracial marriage, shame, family pressure, advice, warning, rejection,
24 Jul 14

Ladies, Be VERY Careful Dating Ethnic Men. Parents...

I recently read an article on Your Tango called, “My Boyfriends Was Ashamed of Me Because I’m Black.” I’ll admit, the first th...
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TBT, Latino men, boy crush, entertainment, history, international, media, celebrities, music, Spanish guys, teen years, Robi Rosa, Ricky Martin, Charlie Masso, Puerto Rico,
24 Jul 14

TBT: Más, Mucho Más Menudo…..

I heard about the fan fare involving Michael Jackson and dem during the early 80’s but I just wasn’t into him like that. The bad boy image...
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dating, relationships, date ideas, blended couples, courting, entertainment, culture,
23 Jul 14

Fabulous Date Ideas for Cool People

The East Coast folks know that we’re on a tight deadline. These days you can’t quite tell when Summer springs or when Winter will Fall thr...
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22 Jul 14

Love It! Couple I Interviewed for Loving Day 2014 ...

I just love it when this happens, and it happens a lot. Last year, courtesy of online dating site, DateWhoYouWant.com, I was able to attend the 2013 L...
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Essence, Black magazine, media, culture, class, race, stereotypes, Black Kang, dating options, self esteem, economics, messages, communication, marriage, value, bias, diversity in dating, misogynistic, racist, Idris Elba, skin magazine, Black interest magazines, sales, light skinned black women, Messence, Black Men Magazine,
20 Jul 14

The Unfair ‘Options’ Media Message: Wh...

As a former public relations executive, I can tell you without any doubt that the media sends us messages–messages that we expect, messages that...
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roman reigns, Man Candy Monday, dating, non black men, entertainment, sports, biracial, guy crush, hottie, sexy men, eye candy,
20 Jul 14

Man Candy Monday: Wrestling with the Remarkable th...

Oh, you kids are so, so spoiled. I feed you Man Candy each and every Monday, yet you scream for more various and different kinds. It’s like your...
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QOTF, black women dating white men, women with children, vetting, relationships, mating, dating, single mothers, advice, video, Youtube, using men as a back up plan, learn proper vetting, finding a step father, loser men, self esteem, priorities,
18 Jul 14

(Bonus) QOTW: Black Women, Multiple Children, and ...

Writer: Hey my name is “Sue” I’m a black female live in St.Louis Mo I have had bad relationship with black men so I decided to date ...
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QOTW, white men dating black women, interracial dating options, divorce, culture, diversity, preference, age, advice, dating, mating,
17 Jul 14

QOTW: White Guy, 51, Ready to Get His Swirl OnR...

The question: Just wanted to say thank you for your advice on fyooz for non-black men on dating or even just letting a black woman know that I’m...
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15 Jul 14

Open Thread: Reader Questions Her Commitment to &#...

Some people wonder why this blog continues to talk about black men in reference to black women dating interracially. It would seem at the surface, tha...
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12 Jul 14

“Im a Negro Bed Wench,” and Other Thin...

Written by The Peacock Bride I’m a sell out. I’m a Negro Bed Wench. I’m an Uncle Tom. Yup…How did I find this out? Like most t...
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racism, bias, white men dating black women, intercultural, cultural diversity, education, empathy, pushing back, patience, blended families, mixed couples, interracial dating,
08 Jul 14

“A Beautiful Burden” One Man’s C...

By “Zac Onbothsides”   Ok. We’ve established that there’s an attraction, we’ve even talked about the awkwardness of expressing ...
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