Thriving

Recognize Yourself? Five Signs You Are An Angry Bl...

By Elaine Flowers, BB&W guest writer We could use this time to go over all of the good reasons why black women should be angry, but I have always ...
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Patrick Wanin, Ph.D, Matthew Hussey, black women, femininity, perception, gender roles, dating, dynamics, inter human relationships, interracial dating, womanhood, sexuality, stigma, masculinity, what is femininity, black women are feminine,

Femininity Series, Part One: “What Does It M...

The topic of femininity is so polarizing. On one end, you have women who feel like even the discussion of femininity is a threat to feminism, and wome...
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Tired of Feeling Like the Dude? BB&W Fan and ...

Let’s face it: gender neutrality is confusing. So let’s just celebrate being girls, shall we? Long-time BB&W fan, ‘Nicole Abunda...
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The Root, British born, Lupita Nyong'o, Steve McQueen , black women, allies, culture, politics, power, networks, support networks,

Judge Not An Ally By Their Skin Color or Whom They...

OMG…wow…super-duper congratulations to Lupita!! As Lupita Nyong’o tearfully accepts the Academy Award for Best Supporting Actress an...
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Must Read: Endless Opportunities Abroad For Women ...

There are times when we look at the world and the outlook seems quite bleak and then there are times when we look at the world and it seems unfair, an...
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SAHM, lifestyle, choices, options, family, parenting, marriage, couples, children, finances, aging, society, culture, stereotypes, black women,stay at home black mothers, non working mothers, stay at home parents, women who don't want to work, raising kids, child rearing, tradition, servants, privilege, freedom,

Why Is Everyone Mad At A “Non-Working”...

I find that there are few things that piss off black people more than a stay at home black mother. Not stay at home mother, but stay at home BLACK mot...
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art, Betti Ono Gallery, Tatyana Fazlalizadeh, Oakland, California, catcalling, social campaign, exhibit, black women, sexual harassment, California, event,

Stop Telling Women to Smile comes to Oakland!

  I am very proud to share that the Stop Telling Women to Smile campaign that I backed continues to roll along. Tatyana Fazlalizadeh, the artist...
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Searching for a Matchmaker: Back to a Familiar Pla...

If you had access to ten men who had been vetted for good character and were already attracted to you, would you meet them? What if all of them were b...
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marriage, couples, interracial dating, women with kids, black women, options, choices, divorce, family, widowers, men with kids, advice, swirling, blended families,

Inside the Male Mind: Why Divorced Single Mothers ...

I’m about to get really real in here for a minute, and what I’m about to say is going to offend a lot of people. I understand that. And I ...
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feminism, music, media, Beyonce, Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, Nigerian, entertainment,

OK, So You Possibly Hate (Or Love) Beyoncé’...

She deserves the hype. And by “she,” I’m referring to Nigerian feminist author Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie. Beyoncé’s recent epo...
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Hilarious Bedsider PSA’s Addresses the Birth...

I was up at the wee hours of the morning last night and saw this commercial… This is brilliant, and I wish it could be shown on the television m...
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Know What ‘Empowerment’ Really Means? ...

I made a few resolutions for this year. For example, I would try to be less confrontational and not expend energy in pointless arguments. Another reso...
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dating, Youtube, marriage, swirling, true story, Willie Pete, commenters, women haters, Black women, marriage, light skin, dark skin, complexion, worth, value, options, blogging, hatred, OOW, single mother, abandonment, White men, other men,

My True Confession: I Advocate Swirling Because I ...

A very strange and angry black man called Sergeant Willie Pete is enraged by me. He’s enraged because he took a comment I said in a You Tube vid...
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Toni: Desirable educated black women who don’...

I find it absolutely hilarious that we get black woman after black woman writing all these open letters and blog posts about how they only want a blac...
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