If you haven’t heard of Abiola Abrams, time to stop paying rent in the Quaker compound you live on and join living people in the know that’ve heard of stuff. Abiola writes books, blogs and columns and broadcasts TV, radio and web series about love, lifestyle and pop culture. This year the love and lifestyle expert has been an MTV Teen Dating Empowerment Coach on the docu-reality series “Made,” reported on celebrity news and relationships as a BBC Radio Entertainment Correspondent, been a featured columnist on love and sex for Yahoo Shine and celebs for Yahoo OMG!, talked about and written about love for Essence, blogged on her lifestyle site “Abiola’s Passionista Playbook,” and hosts/produces her own award-winning web TV series and advice vlogs.

Here’s a clip that she did with Dianne Farr, author of “Kissing Outside the Lines”

Abiola and I have been going back and forth on Twitter and, who knew how easy it is for a journalist to snag a big fish on Twitter? #justsayin. When we finally got a chance to chat, I found her just as goddess-like via telephone. We had a great conversation, covering everything from how black women are portrayed in the media, how black women lack the protections other minority groups do, expectations from other blacks to conform to a pre-approved “blackness” and how us morenas have the power to change impressions one individual at a time.

BB&W Exclusive with Abiola Abrams by Christelyn

You know what puts the yummy milking chocolate frosting on top? Abiola will be a REGULAR BB&W contributor, blessing us all whit that beautiful face and girlie advice through her Passionista Playbook video advice webisodes. You’re welcome.

BTW, BB&W dudes, Abiola is single and an equal-opportunity dater of the rainbeau. Check her out on her blog, Abiolatv.com and Twitter, because I think she may own some real estate there.