What did Fabio teach us? I mean about men and long hair, not whether or not something is butter. Well, I’d like to think he taught us that long hair on a man is sometimes a romantic thing that can be appreciated. Sometimes, because it’s really about a lady’s individual taste. What invokes Harlequin Romance novel inspired visions of ecstasy in some women makes others laugh and or gag as they reach for a pair of scissors.

For my part, I just happen to think that it’s possible as a feminine woman to not write off a man as undesirable simply because he has longer hair. I think it really depends on the guy. For example:

To say that I am a big Highlander fan is a bit of an understatement. And I may have had a lot of feelings (NNNNNNOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!) when Adrian Paul went and cut his hair. Maybe it was the acting, but I never thought of the character as effeminate or unattractive due to having long hair. I think Duncan MacLeod’s hair length never interfered with my impression of him as a masculine, formidable, and sexy man. But still, I was taken aback when the hair went bye-bye. Fortunately Adrian is handsome and it’s not like the loss indefinitely distracted me from his face acting.

It gets a bit more complicated though when the guy in question doesn’t give the impression of being a muscular, manly romantic figure quite like the above examples.

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I’ve only known about “El Canelita” a short while. He’s an up and coming Andalusian singer and I find that I really like his latest music. I am way too skeeved out by the overt sexualization of a minor to glean much about his music prior to his foray into adulthood, I must confess. But, the more recent stuff? I honestly can say that his soulful flamenco music makes an lovely impression.

Why I love guys with long hair?

I am simply not as put off by long hair on a guy as you’d expect from an unapologetically feminine woman. In truth, I have positive feelings about it. I wouldn’t mind running my fingers through their hair. I might even want to brush it. *.* But, ironically, that may come back to me being a girly-girl and liking pretty and delicate things.

Another way to look at it is how like I said, long hair sometimes makes one think of romance. Also, hair length and its perceptions change and have changed via time and location. …And certain cultures encroaching on others with their narrow-minded ethnocentrism. But I digress: I wouldn’t mind brushing it or playing a guy’s hair if it happened to be longer than mine. I think I’d like that quite a bit.

(And I’m sure far less innocent minds than my own can think of other reasons why they like it so much…. *whistles as she walks away*)

Why I “might be crazy”?

I really don’t associate hair length with masculinity and femininity. I have a tightly coiled afro, rather than long long hair that blows in the breeze. By this logic, I’m automatically masculine, or at least more masculine than women with hair longer than my own. How often have we seen black women attacked as appearing “masculine” due to our hair-length? I don’t like it when people level that attack on my person. Especially when there is this false perception that being a feminine woman with manners and decorum is as simple as showing up with waist-length hair. …The stories I could tell. :S

But anyway, I just have to say that I tie my femininity to who I am and what I like, not my hair.

And I think there are a variety of characteristics that make up a suitable male. So long as his hair is well taken care of, I wouldn’t be bothered by it being longer than mine. ….And yes, I would offer to brush it. Frequently.

So what are your thoughts on guys and hair length?