Christelyn loves us.

How do I know this? Because she does not just tell us what we want to hear. That is what people who sincerely care about us do. Speak the truth.

She knows what some of us want to hear. She knows that avoiding subjects that call some of us out on our behavior or values would increase her page views. She could easily pimp this swirling meme in a feel good, this will solve all of your problems, just believe in yourself, way. And hand over a larger, less skeptical, audience to her sponsors. Sister Christlo Dollar’s Play in the Snow and Blessings Will Flow Gospel. She does know the drill. It is a familiar and well worn path, blazed by countless confidence artists.

Christelyn does not exploit us, because she has several goals she wants us to accomplish and making money for her is not high on the list. I could make a long list of these goals, but lets just focus for now on that one issue that seems to cause the most whining and hurt feelings: the unsolicited advice about our bodies that so many of us are self-righteously resenting right now.

I think perhaps some of the fans of BB&W don’t understand what this site is about. It’s not just a swirling club. It’s also about (1) improving your chances of swirling and (2) improving your life in all ways. The disturbing subject of losing weight to the point of being attractive and healthy meets both (1 & 2) of those goals. If it offends you, leave, because this will continue to happen, as it should.

Christelyn has a tag team of writers that have no compunction about broaching this subject periodically. They are willing to lead. If you are not willing to lead or follow on this, you know what to do.

Get out of the way.

Note from Christelyn: First, I love you, Bill. Second, I need to make something clear. When we talk about weight issues, it is MOSTLY from a pro-health perspective, not from a catch-a-man perspective. Don’t believe me? Go look at our archives. HOWEVER, because this is primarily a relationships blog I
will speak on how weight plays in attractiveness to the opposite sex. It only makes logical sense that a relationship site would discuss the physicality of attractiveness. The BB&W position is this: the MAJORITY of men, regardless of race, prefer a fit (not SKINNY) and healthy woman. They find this attractive. Conversely, the MAJORITY of women prefer non-obese men, preferably fit, but that’s a scale depending on what other qualities he brings (e.g. the potential to provide for a family and maintain financial security). I am aware that there are exceptions to this rule, but that does NOT negate the rule. Healthy and fit people GENERALLY have more dating options than those that aren’t. Period, THE END. Nobody said life’s fair. Humans are programmed for this, so I guess you can blame God.