I often go to a variety of sites to get news and updates, and CLUTCH has been one of my pit stops for years. But one article that struck me as particular this morning was one written about ESPN writer, Sage Steele, who expressed that she experiences the most racism from other black people, because she is biracial and married to a white man.

Apparently this quote really stuck in the writer’s craw:

“The worst racism that I have received [as a biracial woman married to white man], and I mean thousands and thousands over the years, is from black people, who in my mind thought would be the most accepting because there has been that experience,” the 44-year-old anchor stated. “But even as recent as the last couple of weeks, the words that I have had thrown at me I can’t repeat here and it’s 99 percent from people with my skin color. But if a white person said those words to me, what would happen?”

The writer’s response to Steele’s confession was quite…Lipstick Alley-ish:

Is it just me, or those Steele can’t seem to wait to throw the fact that she’s biracial and married to a white man in everyone’s face? Someone needs to inform Steele she’s not a special unicorn and the only biracial person in the world. But I guess some people will do anything to shed what little bit of blackness they have.

Sage Steele and her beautiful family

Any black women in American matched interracially (and especially if that mate is white) knows what Sage Steele is speaking of. By far, the most abuse I have EVER experienced has been from other black people, who have mocked, scoffed, threatened, insulted and disdained the fact that my husband is white. There are literally MILLIONS of stories like this. Remember when it happened to Tamera Mowry?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QnBB8WraMLI

The worst part is when black women act as handmaidens to these male abusers by joining in the mockery and throwing their fellow black women under the bus for a pat on the head and a Scooby Snack, much like the CLUTCH writer did. Instead of expressing empathy and telling the TRUTH about the unique challenges black women face with dating and mating, they side with men who degrade and denounce our unions. These women are not our sisters. In some ways, the betrayal cuts even deeper, because I truly believe they KNOW what black women go through to find love, and they desire their fellow sisters to REMAIN believing they have little agency to change their station.

These women are the Handmaidens of the Hoteps. There; I just gave them a moniker. Let’s call them HoH’s for short, shall we? Wonder how they like being called names.