As discussed in the previous blog post, Pillars of Salt – What a Waste of Time!  We saw the example of Lot’s wife in the Bible.  Turning to look back, she became a pillar of salt.  She simply could not resist the deadly draw of her community and could not let go of the ties that bound her to it – not even to save her own life.  Today, I want to address Pillars of Salt Extreme Edition (POS-EE).  These are women who for their own lives will not leave dangerous neighborhoods and environments rife with black on black crime.  This extreme and dire situation prompted an open appeal to them.

Dear Pillars of Salt (Extreme Edition), 

Please get out of unsafe communities that are detrimental to you and your children.  Get out and get out now!  Do whatever it takes to find a place in a nice neighborhood even if it means a smaller or cramped space.  Think about your safety and survival, and your children’s futures….. 

This is what we life coaches do when we coach clients or advise our mothers, sisters, cousins, friends or even strangers.  We are talking about Pillars of Salt – Extreme Edition.  They are among many black women who refuse to leave their deadly communities for their own good.  We are speaking about getting out of communities where their lives and those of their children are in constant danger.  A Pillar of Salt Extreme Edition (POS-EE) holds an unhealthy allegiance to those who would sacrifice her and all she has. The POS-EE gets nothing in return for her sacrifice and sometimes magical and wishful thinking but death, destruction or despair.

The POS-EE of the black community sees what is happening all around her, yet for whatever reason, excuses abound.  She won’t hold the black men responsible for destroying their communities and is always ready to offer what white people have done to make black men act this way.  Excuse me?  Who exactly made some of these criminals kill, rape, maim, and ruin the lives of black women and girls?  Oh, white society did it.  A black woman can’t even walk down the street without expecting some kind of street harassment.  She can’t even visit the local store, ride the bus, or metro without an unwanted and unwelcomed encounter from some black man who feels he is entitled to encroach on her personal space and make her converse with him.  Yep, a white person made them do it.  That settles it.

There are always consequences to this kind of thinking.  You don’t want to move out of the hood to protect yourself or your children?  You or they will pay the price.  A quick Internet search of the latest crimes against a black woman or child will verify my claims here.  Don’t believe me, look it up for yourselves, just pick a city.  Of course crime happens everywhere and even in the best of neighborhoods or communities.  But in particular black communities fast becoming known as Blackistan, it is CERTAIN to happen and the victim will most likely be a black woman or child —- at the hands of a black man.  There are other consequences too.  I like the idea of having a home or community where you can feel safe going to with a peace of mind.  What about access to better schools so that your children can have a better education and therefore a better life?

Strangely, As discussed in the previous blog post, Pillars of Salt – What a Waste of Time.  We saw the example of Lot’s wife in the Bible.  Turning to look back, she became a pillar of salt.  She simply could not resist the deadly draw of her community and could not let go of the ties that bound her to it – not even to save her own life.  Today, I want to address Pillars of Salt Extreme Edition (POS-EE).  These are women who for their own lives will not leave dangerous neighborhoods and environments.  This extreme and dire situation prompted an open appeal to them.  the POS-EE will congregate with other pillars and complain about their situation.  In numbers, they vow to do something about it and just leave.  She may even take steps to get out, but that is all talk, the POS-EE never takes any real action when it comes down to it.  She becomes a pillar of salt extreme edition, stuck right where she stands for looking back. The POS can’t bear the thought that she is abandoning her community.  She can’t leave the black man who has left her with a child or several children without any kind of support.  This is because he is so helpless against white society, or whatever other evils mounted against that poor black man.  Just like Lot’s wife got a just reward for stubbornness to leave, the modern day POS-EE gets her reward too and it isn’t pretty.  If often ends in murder, rape, beatings, other malicious wounding, or many other kinds of tragedies.

Logical, common sense advice is to just leave before it is too late.  If children can make it to adulthood, it is left up to them to leave while their mothers languish in her situation, unchanging.  Or the cycle may repeat with children who grow up indoctrinated to think that white people hate them so they only have what is tangible to them – a rundown community filled with predators and worthless users who pepper their seed and move on to the next women.  Racism is alive and well no doubt about that, but we are doing our children a disservice to raise them to hate white people or anyone.  Because of choices someone else made, this mindset may cause them to believe their situation is hopeless anyway and therefore nothing can be done.  Even the most hardened POS-EE has to know better than this.

As these community crime statistics increase, we can only hope that those who do make it out can serve as examples.  But the POS-EE is really a hopeless cause and our efforts are better spent on trying to reach their children, or others who really do want to leave.

Original article Pillars of Salt – What a Waste of Time! is cross posted on Swirling and Marriage.com