Question of the Week

QOTW: “Am I Racist Because I DON’T Want a Black Woman?”

Sometimes I get the most absurd questions…

Thanks for the great videos…very educational 🙂 I have a question. As a white male from the Southern USA, I have…I would say “grown” out of certain ideas about interracial relationships. It wasn’t because of any one book I read, or sensitivity training classes, but just a gradual process of seeing interracial couples who by their examples demonstrated that race does not have to be a barrier.

But My question is this…Do you consider “preference” as some form of subtle racism? Now please don’t take this wrong, but whatever it is in the human male brain that triggers attraction…it simply doesn’t “click” when I see black women MOST of the time. Just a rough estimate, I’d guess My non-reaction rate is around 95%. It isn’t a negative reaction…it is just NO reaction. It is like My brain doesn’t register black females as female in the sense that there is any possibility of sex happening. I can laugh and joke and have fun with them as PEOPLE. I can work great with them as co-workers. I can appreciate them intellectually. But there is nothing sexual triggered.

Not sure handsome latino man in casual clothes, throwing hands up, shrugging shoulders showing attitude of uncertainty, indecision, apathy, who cares

Not sure handsome latino man in casual clothes, throwing hands up, shrugging shoulders showing attitude of uncertainty, indecision, apathy, who cares

Should I be concerned that this is some remnant of racism…or is it just biology? What do you think? Do we just accept our preferences as they are or is this a sign of something that needs some self-examination.

As you can imagine, this is a difficult thing to talk about because people take offense and take it personal, but I’d really like to hear your views on this subject.

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