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Monday Man Candy: A Picture is Worth a Thousand Wo...

The weather is starting to heat up but since I’m impatient I’ve decided to turn up my our body heat the old fashioned way. Mother nature&#...
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QOTW: White Guy Worried He’s ONLY Attracted ...

Hi Christelyn, I discovered you on Youtube. I enjoy your input on IR dating and would definitely consider you the “expert” on this topic o...
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The Great Debate: Should WM and BW Get Together Be...

Anyone that hangs around IR blogs for a significant length of time,  has already noticed that *some* black women express the following: “Black ...
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A Heartfelt Letter from a White Guy, Wondering How...

I don’t know if you guys realize how much of an impact this site has, and how many notes I get like this on a weekly basis. Men you thought woul...
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Where the Guys Are: New York City Version

I’ve just recently found myself living in Brooklyn, New York, and though this change wasn’t planned, it’s definitely a great opportu...
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Episode Two of “Swirlr” is Here!

Sorry for the delay, folks. The editors are, well…very persnickety. In this episode, we follow the men and women we picked as good potential mat...
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Surrender Versus Submission: What You Don’t ...

All this talk of men, sex, and femininity, yet again, has got my mind sizzling with ways in which I might be able to explain to you what’s so aw...
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Author of “Black Girls Guide to Dating White...

My buddy and fellow IR author, Niki McElroy, author of  A Black Girls Guide to Dating White Men, recently took an 8-month ride on Tinder, the popula...
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Guess Who’s Coming to the Prom? EBONY Magazi...

Thank lawdbejeezus that today’s teenagers don’t have as many hangup about interracial relationships that the older folks seem to have. Acc...
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How Self Described “Good Guys” Usually...

I’m the type of female that listens with her Spidey sense when it comes to men attempting to state their case on why I should consider them a fo...
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Tyrese Gibson Speaks on DBR Men “They Love L...

What will it take for some women to realize that some dudes just aren’t worth having? The comment section will routinely blow up during conversa...
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Leona’s Love Quest: The Final Chapter

It’s hard to believe that two years ago right before Valentine’s Day I sat down at my desk and crafted my introduction to “Leona’s Love Qu...
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Lessons From The Hubster: What You Get With a Guy ...

So The Hubster and I have many a conversation about the the blog’s goings on, and I mentioned how a new member of ours, ostensibly a software en...
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The Sad Story of Sandra Laing: A tale of White Pri...

Have you heard of Sandra Laing? Her story, though originating in apartheid South Africa, will likely resonate with us here.  From the Guardian: The b...
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