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How Self Described “Good Guys” Usually...

I’m the type of female that listens with her Spidey sense when it comes to men attempting to state their case on why I should consider them a fo...
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Tyrese Gibson Speaks on DBR Men “They Love L...

What will it take for some women to realize that some dudes just aren’t worth having? The comment section will routinely blow up during conversa...
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Leona’s Love Quest: The Final Chapter

It’s hard to believe that two years ago right before Valentine’s Day I sat down at my desk and crafted my introduction to “Leona’s Love Qu...
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Lessons From The Hubster: What You Get With a Guy ...

So The Hubster and I have many a conversation about the the blog’s goings on, and I mentioned how a new member of ours, ostensibly a software en...
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The Sad Story of Sandra Laing: A tale of White Pri...

Have you heard of Sandra Laing? Her story, though originating in apartheid South Africa, will likely resonate with us here.  From the Guardian: The b...
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Searching for a Matchmaker: Back to a Familiar Pla...

If you had access to ten men who had been vetted for good character and were already attracted to you, would you meet them? What if all of them were b...
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Relationship Tweet Chat Today, 4PM PST/7PM EST

I get so many relationship questions that I often can’t get to them all. But today, I’m going to be part of a tweet chat with my fellow co...
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Listen white guys, you REALLY need to get over you...

I recently ran across a post from a “Pick Up Artist” site  by an expert giving advice to non-black men on how to date black women. It was...
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It’s Official: Tyra Banks Has a New Boo

Tyra Banks, model and creator of the reality TV show for aspiring models America’s Next Top Model, was photographed getting her smooch on in a r...
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National Black HIV Awareness Day: Have You Been Te...

February 7th is National HIV Awareness Day. HIV/AIDS has claimed approximately 250,745 lives over the last five years. Though much less than the 80&#...
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Monica: “I Thank God For My Husband”

Monica L. In light of a recent post, I wanted to share a refreshing story of Monica L.  This beautiful, scholarly sister would not let negative messa...
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One Man Found Guilty of Not Disclosing HIV Status,...

Consider this post a friendly public service announcement about the importance of safe sex. It’s not just high schoolers who need this message. ...
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Toni: Desirable educated black women who don’...

I find it absolutely hilarious that we get black woman after black woman writing all these open letters and blog posts about how they only want a blac...
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QOTW: “Is My Long-Distance Relationship a Bi...

I received this note from a reader a few weeks ago: “I am a single parent of twin seven year old boys and I live in Trinidad. I have known my fr...
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