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Searching for a Matchmaker: Back to a Familiar Pla...

If you had access to ten men who had been vetted for good character and were already attracted to you, would you meet them? What if all of them were b...
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Relationship Tweet Chat Today, 4PM PST/7PM EST

I get so many relationship questions that I often can’t get to them all. But today, I’m going to be part of a tweet chat with my fellow co...
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Listen white guys, you REALLY need to get over you...

I recently ran across a post from a “Pick Up Artist” site  by an expert giving advice to non-black men on how to date black women. It was...
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It’s Official: Tyra Banks Has a New Boo

Tyra Banks, model and creator of the reality TV show for aspiring models America’s Next Top Model, was photographed getting her smooch on in a r...
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National Black HIV Awareness Day: Have You Been Te...

February 7th is National HIV Awareness Day. HIV/AIDS has claimed approximately 250,745 lives over the last five years. Though much less than the 80&#...
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Monica: “I Thank God For My Husband”

Monica L. In light of a recent post, I wanted to share a refreshing story of Monica L.  This beautiful, scholarly sister would not let negative messa...
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One Man Found Guilty of Not Disclosing HIV Status,...

Consider this post a friendly public service announcement about the importance of safe sex. It’s not just high schoolers who need this message. ...
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Toni: Desirable educated black women who don’...

I find it absolutely hilarious that we get black woman after black woman writing all these open letters and blog posts about how they only want a blac...
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QOTW: “Is My Long-Distance Relationship a Bi...

I received this note from a reader a few weeks ago: “I am a single parent of twin seven year old boys and I live in Trinidad. I have known my fr...
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Tis the Season to Give: The Naughty or Nice Adult ...

Baby, it’s cold outside, so what’s a girl to do to keep warm!? Well, as with anything else, you’ve got options, baby. You could alwa...
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Man Candy Monday: Danell Leyva’s Naked Body ...

There is something about a man’s body that I just can’t deny. The lines of his shoulders, the width of his waist, the way his calf muscles...
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Man Candy Monday: Who Said Indian Men Ain’t ...

Okay, to show you all just how shallow one needs to be in order to identify, process and discard men, I give you Exhibit A. Upen Patel is a hot, gorge...
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Get Brand New On Um: 5 Ways to Reinvent, Rejuvenat...

iStock_000004447349XSmallRoutines can be both a good and a bad thing. The ability to go about your life without having to put much thought into what y...
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Hypergamy and Black Women Marrying Up

I think my blog, The New Elegant Black Woman, is all about hypergamy and becoming a high quality woman, because it feels great to be one and because i...
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